Magic kink refers to a specific type of fetish or attraction that involves a fascination or sexual arousal towards magic or the supernatural. This kink is often seen within the BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism) community, but can also exist independently. People with a magic kink may find the use of spells, potions, or rituals during sexual activities to be highly arousing. There are various aspects to magic kink that individuals may find alluring. Some may be drawn to the fantasy and escapism that magic provides, allowing them to step out of their everyday reality into a world where anything is possible. Others may find the power dynamics associated with magic to be exciting, enjoying the roles of dominants who wield magical abilities or submissives who are at the mercy of their partners' mystical control.
Goerlich has expertise in the academic research on the intersection of religion and sex and also has a number of clients who identify as witches, Wiccans, or pagans. Here, she answers all of our questions about sex magick.
While Ellwood and Lupa both presume their readers have some basic familiarity with BDSM and sex magic, they include a helpful bibliography and list of resources for those who lack that experience or knowledge. Lupa and Taylor make an important distinction between hurting causing pain in a consensual situation and harming deliberate, malicious infliction of damage.
Others may find the power dynamics associated with magic to be exciting, enjoying the roles of dominants who wield magical abilities or submissives who are at the mercy of their partners' mystical control. Magic kink can also incorporate elements of role-playing, where individuals take on fantasy personas or characters who possess magical abilities. This can involve dressing up in costumes, using props such as wands or crystals, and engaging in scripted scenarios, adding an extra layer of imagination to the experience.
Kink Magic:
Sex Magic Beyond Vanilla
by Taylor Ellwood & Lupa
Immanion Press, 2007
Taylor Ellwood and Lupa have attracted attention for their smart, sophisticated writing in books like Lupa’s Field Guide to Otherkin and Ellwood’s Pop Culture Magick. Here they combine forces for Kink Magic: Sex Magic Beyond Vanilla, a frank, mature, cutting-edge discussion of sexuality, magic, and their various intersections which should prove useful and entertaining whatever your pleasure or perversion.
When it comes to gender, kinky doesn’t necessarily equal cluefull. Lupa and Ellwood offer some much-needed information on gender, gender identity, and gender roles. That homophobic misogynist at your local fetish club should be chained up in a closet with a reading light and a copy of chapters four and five; the end result might be enlightening (or at least entertaining) for all. The authors also provide lots of advice on communication and establishing boundaries: even those who have no interest in bondage arts could benefit from learning how to say “no” effectively and how to discuss one’s needs, wants, and emotional triggers.
Some Witches try to live down those salacious rumors about Sabbath orgies; others wonder where they are held, and how they can acquire an invitation to attend. Those who wish to add others into their sexual rituals will find plenty of useful material here. So will those who are voluntarily or involuntarily single: Kink Magic discusses masturbatory work with nary a Beavis & Butthead snicker. While Ellwood and Lupa both presume their readers have some basic familiarity with BDSM and sex magic, they include a helpful bibliography and list of resources for those who lack that experience or knowledge.
Like any other worthwhile spiritual endeavor, kink magic can be hazardous to one’s physical and emotional health. Smart magicians will minimize these risks: following the advice given in Chapter Seven, the bluntly titled “Reducing the Chance of ‘Oh, F*ck’’s”, will go a long way toward that goal. Lupa and Taylor make an important distinction between hurting (causing pain in a consensual situation) and harming (deliberate, malicious infliction of damage). Conscientious BDSMers may whip, cut, shock, and beat whom they will — but they make sure that their actions harm none. Kink Magic is an invaluable addition to the magical and sexual canons: there is ample material here for the leather-clad domme and the milquetoast missionary alike. Highly recommended.
RATING: 5 Broomsticks
» Originally appeared in newWitch #17
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It's important to note that the practice of magic kink should always involve informed and enthusiastic consent from all parties involved. Clear communication, negotiation of boundaries, and the use of safewords are crucial to ensure that everyone involved feels safe and comfortable throughout the experience. Like any other form of kink or fetish, magic kink is a personal preference that varies from individual to individual. Some may enjoy incorporating a touch of magic into their sexual experiences, while others may prefer to explore it through literature, art, or other non-sexual means. As with any kink or fetish, it's essential to respect individuals' boundaries and preferences, and to prioritize open and honest communication in order to create a safe and consensual environment for exploration..
Reviews for "Finding Connection and Intimacy Through Shared Magic Kink Experiences"
- John - 2 stars - I was really disappointed with "Magic Kink A". The story felt disjointed and the characters lacked depth. The author tried to incorporate too many fantastical elements without properly explaining them, leaving me confused and disconnected from the plot. Overall, it felt like the book was trying too hard to be unique and ended up falling flat.
- Sarah - 1 star - I couldn't even finish "Magic Kink A". The writing was incredibly sloppy and riddled with grammatical errors. It was so distracting that I couldn't focus on the story. Additionally, the characters were poorly developed and their actions were inconsistent. The lack of editing and poor writing quality made this book almost unreadable for me.
- Emma - 2 stars - "Magic Kink A" had so much potential, but it failed to deliver. The pacing was off, with the story dragging in some parts and rushing through others. It felt like the author couldn't decide what direction to take the plot in and ended up leaving loose ends. The romance was also forced and lacked chemistry. Overall, it was a disappointing read.